I've been asked the question recently of how many women I've slept with since my marriage opened up. One person really wanted to know. Well for starters, it's none of your business but more important I don't have a number. I don't sit there and put a notch on my surfboard after I've had sex. But what I do think about, and how fucking strange is this, is where my partners are from. I like to think in terms of global positioning, and how these women have offered something unique based upon their cultural differences.
For many of you that are reading my blog, you know that I have been catching up on lost time. I, my naive self, got married very young, and had little to no sexual experience. I was a casualty of my own religious paradigm. I saw the world has black and white and my views were very conservative. When I lost my religion, I then saw a whole new world and suddenly the rules were totally fucking different. And so when the old rules didn't apply any longer I started to find a new found freedom in my sexuality and my fantasies that I never ever thought I would enjoy. That freedom is quite possibly the greatest benefit of having an open relationship. Monogamy will never get that, will never grasp it, or comprehend it.
So the first time I got to enjoy my new found freedom was with a beautiful Russian. A gorgeous girl who was also a model. Yea, I got off to a good start, not everyone can or will be so lucky. Then there was a Latina, an African American, a woman from Afghanistan, Israel, Canada, a woman from Kentucky (is that really in America?), a Jewish woman, and finally a Korean woman. I confess that I had to open Google Earth just to double check all the places that I've been, not literally, just figuratively.
Let me be clear that I don't share this list for bragging purposes, but because they each offered me a cultural sexual experience. And now I wonder what part of the earth I'll be visiting next.