Thursday, December 10, 2009

Bring it on Bitches!

Yesterday was fantastic.  I had a great sleep and woke up feeling like life was falling into the right places.  I got dressed, wearing a professional suit for work, with my hair and skin looking fabulous.  I had some fucking confidence and felt like a million bucks.  It's been a while since I've felt like that, and its good to be back.  I was sick with step throat this past weekend.  Tonight I will need that confidence and charisma/charm as I head into a lions den of successful single women who I will be mingling with and flirting with at a black-tie Holiday Gala, and I'm ready.  Bring it on bitches!

Most importantly, my kids have heard the news about mom and dad getting a divorce and they are doing very well with that news.  We took an hour this past week to discuss it with them and get feelings out on the table.  She and I talked to each of them together and it was something we had planned out about as well as we possibly could.  It went better than I thought it would.  Sure, there were some tears, some shocks, and  a lot of questions, but the kids know that nothing is changing in our home.  I'm not moving out, and no one else is moving in.  Things are staying the same, but for now, I feel better that they are in the know about mom and dad not being "in love" anymore.  I expect that the kids will be taking time to absorb it all and may have some concerns down the road.

When we finished talking to them we took them out to dinner and had a nice family meal.

Next it will be our parents and families.  That might not go over so smoothly.  We'll see.

I have been terrible at commenting to all of  you on your posts and thanking you for your comments.  For that I am really sorry.  I hope things will back to a normal pace soon.

Wednesday, December 2, 2009

Down But Not Out

Dear loyal readers and friends,

I am experiencing cerebral fall-out at the moment and have very little to contribute to my own posts and unfortunately have little to nothing to say in terms of commenting on your fine posts.  I guess you could say that I'm in a funk, and that I'm down but not out.  Just taking a breather from this outlet.

I love you all my fine blogstresses and I think about you daily.

I'll be back soon and hopefully to report on the progression my family is making toward more disclosure of our situation.

We're planning on talking to the kids about our pending divorce this week and that is going to be a huge change in their lives, although in reality, nothing is going to change within the home.  'Mom and dad will be getting a divorce, but we are living together in this home to raise you guys. We love you with all our hearts.'  That's going to be the theme for our discussions with them. It will remain to be seen how they take it.  I really can't say until we talk to them.

Then it will be off to my parents house to explain things to them.  I think I'll be a little more relieved when the secret is out and  I know I'll feel better about wife's parents knowing since I'm a lot more connected to them then my own parents.  At least they can stop referring to us as a couple, a normal happy, in-love couple.  The wife and I are friends but more like team members now, co-captains of this team, and we have to work together to raise our kids.  That's what we're focusing on now.

Peace and Love