Wednesday, December 2, 2009

Down But Not Out

Dear loyal readers and friends,

I am experiencing cerebral fall-out at the moment and have very little to contribute to my own posts and unfortunately have little to nothing to say in terms of commenting on your fine posts.  I guess you could say that I'm in a funk, and that I'm down but not out.  Just taking a breather from this outlet.

I love you all my fine blogstresses and I think about you daily.

I'll be back soon and hopefully to report on the progression my family is making toward more disclosure of our situation.

We're planning on talking to the kids about our pending divorce this week and that is going to be a huge change in their lives, although in reality, nothing is going to change within the home.  'Mom and dad will be getting a divorce, but we are living together in this home to raise you guys. We love you with all our hearts.'  That's going to be the theme for our discussions with them. It will remain to be seen how they take it.  I really can't say until we talk to them.

Then it will be off to my parents house to explain things to them.  I think I'll be a little more relieved when the secret is out and  I know I'll feel better about wife's parents knowing since I'm a lot more connected to them then my own parents.  At least they can stop referring to us as a couple, a normal happy, in-love couple.  The wife and I are friends but more like team members now, co-captains of this team, and we have to work together to raise our kids.  That's what we're focusing on now.

Peace and Love
Dewey
XXX-O

17 comments:

Emmy said...

Your focus is totally where it should be. Good luck with everything, and we'll be here when you get back. :)
~Emmy

Petal said...

hugs babe :)

Ms Bitchtits to You said...

Love ya', sweetness. All the best for you and your family.

Hubman said...

Best wishes, my good man.

One thought- have you considered waiting until the holiday season is over to have these talks? I can appreciate the desire to get it over with, but the holidays can be stressful enough. Plus, I don't know how old your kids are, but they might end up remembering Christmas as the time of year when mom and dad split up.

Soul Powers said...

Stay strong Dewey. Where here when you need support, Bro.

Married Lover said...

Hugs 'n kisses

WannabeVirginia W. said...

I wish you all the best and hoping all goes well. Follow your heart and do what you think is right. If this is the right time, for you so be it. The children will grow up and choose to remember what they want, regardless...

Dharma said...

Good luck talking with the kids. Here's hoping that they take it better than you expect them to.

I don't know who said it or where it came from, but once I heard a quote that has made a whole lot of sense to me throughout this split between me and The Ex:

"Children would rather be *from* a broken home than *in* one."

That being said, I think Hubman makes a good point...waiting until after the holidays to tell the kids might be a good idea.

Either way, my thoughts are with you.

southerngirl said...

Holiday season is such a heavy time... Why don't I pour us a Margarita and you tell the blogchicks all about it???

xoxo

Ms Scarlett said...

Sounds like progress (the good kind) is being made. Good luck with all the upcoming conversations, and you know we'll be here when you come back.

HUGS!

Barefoot Dreamer said...

I have to agree - it somehow is easier to deal once the secret is out. Best of things to you dear. Waiting your return.

wifegonebad said...

I know that you will feel much better when the "secret" is out to your families. Secrets wear you down. Wishing you the best sweetie!

xoxo
Emma

Green Eyed Frenchy said...

All my sympathy to you. Going to the same ordeal. Good luck!

alive_she_cried said...

This is a tough time of year...more so for those of us with spouse and family issues. I have to admit, I thought the same thing others did, that maybe after the first of the year would be a better time for the kids?

But some of the things you learn as a parent are how tough it is, and how there are as many ways to parent as there are kids, and what's a priority to one family is less so to another. So who can say?

In any case, we're with you, wishing you the best. Good vibes coming your way.

Topaz said...

What a weight of emotions must be on your shoulders. I am hoping the children can take the news... but I know you have considered all of this already. Oh, this can't be easy. Good luck...

autumn said...

(((hugs)))

i went through this same thing a few years back. my ex hus and i lived together after we split for a full year. i was pregnant with our second child when we split, and because we saw past our differences to the bigger picture, we wanted to work it out so that our new bundle could bond with both of us. we share our kids equally. i have them for one week, then his turn. we've been doing it like this for over 5yrs now and it's working VERY well. our children are very happy and well adjusted.

the telling is the hard part. it's nice to know you are close with your (soon to be) ex wife's family. i do hope it continues for you. we grow to love inlaws just as we do our own family members. you can do this. your kids will be very sad, but they will adjust. children are much more aware and adaptable than we give them credit for sometimes.

all the best. i will be thinking of you because i know just how that feels.

xoxo
loves autumn

Kyra said...

I'm with SG. Let's make you some cocktails and the blog girls will help make it all better!